Recently I was asking my sister if there was a word to describe that hollow empty weird gulpy feeling you get when someone close to you leaves home. We didnt really find a word for it but then I went on to reflect on it.
It was a Mercy from Allah swt that after the creation of Adam AS, He granted him a companion; a spouse, soulmate, lover, whatever you call it.
There is nothing wrong to yearn for your loved one, to feel a shallow emptiness when your loved one leaves, or to grieve the loss of a loved one. Its in the mercy of Allah swt that He grants us these emotions, and legal ways of fulfilling these emotions. :’) 🌹
However, everything deems balance and knowing where to place our love for loved ones vs love for God, needs its balance as well. When this is striven for, then one will know how to deal with that shallow empty feeling when their loved one is away. 💛
When Ibrahim AS left Hajar alone in a desert with their baby, to fulfil his duties, she must have really felt hollow; it shows in her desperation when her child cried of thirst. What would she have been feeling that her loneliness without her husband, her desperation to feed her child, her anxiety of being in a deserted valley made her climb from one mountain to another, not once, not twice but SEVEN times! Had she despaired at the farewell of her loved one instead, she wouldn’t have made history and initiated an act of worship for millions of people and generations to come. She surrendered to the will of her Almighty because she knew where to place the love of Lord and where to place the love of her loved ones. She surrendered to Allahs commands over her desires, no matter how tiring, how trying it kept getting for her.
How beautiful a Mercy from our Lord it is, that to feel empty means our hearts feel love; and to be able to love is from an attribute of the merciful.
Abu Hurayrah RA said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) kissed al-Hasan ibn ‘Ali, when al-Aqra‘ ibn Haabis al-Tameemi was sitting with him. al-Aqra‘ said: I have ten children and I have never kissed one of them. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) looked at him, then he said: “The one who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.” (Sahih Bukhari)
#love #mercy #emptiness #beautifulDeen