Motherhood: Its like having no classmate to make them do your homework. It is YOUR homework and you gotta do it. N you can’t be excused for not doing it either. You gotta do what you gotta do.
Is there a break? Perhaps. But mostly, nope.
So all we need is to be mentally prepared and take it one at a time n enjoy n see how it makes us happy right. Nope. Coz ‘Mentally prepared’, we never are. 😂
It is infact in the every day hours and every nappy change that when we look back and find our sons and daughters taller than they were, that we’ve dwelled in motherhood.
Thats what it is. We cannot expect life to be the same.
Yes there is no ‘cheating’ and no ‘escaping from’ it.
Some days everything goes perfectly. And other days you haven’t bathed the baby yet, you smell of baby puke, you’ve barely made it for your prayers on time and your hair is like a nest while your body hurts in pain and you’re tired.
But it doesn’t mean you’ve failed. (I hope)
One of the hardest things to do is to ‘accept’ the negative emotions within us. We don’t want to be sad. We don’t want to be imperfect. We don’t want to feel like we’ve failed our own high standards. We don’t want to face troubles in life. We want ease all the time.
But the thing is, we need to learn to realize that all that is a process very necessary for our growth. We can’t go about life if it was a constant. Its about embracing the changes one by one no matter how overwhelming, and learn to make them instances that bring us success. It is alright to be sad; to be imperfect; to fail once in a while. Its alright to be exhausted. It is. It is alright to find it hard; stop feeling guilty now.
In fact it is thru phases of sadness, or loneliness, or depression or tests and troubles in life, that we see the rise of great poets and artists and personalities, isn’t it?
What we need to ensure is that, these negative emotions push us to make us better and not push us to give up instead. Let them bring out that inner talent and greatness to shine out and not let them lose the ‘you’ within you. (This is the hardest coz you have to lose a part of you to be honest)
Embrace every moment. You are a good wife. You are a good mother. You are a good friend and a good sister. You are excellent infact. The very reason you aren’t settling for how it feels is coz you want the *best* in everything for your child. So Take it easy.
Focus on the here and now, coz little by little one travels far.
Rejoice ya UmmAhmed! Allah swt has honored the love of a mother so much that He compares it with His love! What an honour would that be!
Doesn’t that make you rejoice with happiness in the heart and contentment in the mind that Allah swt knows and appreciates every single thing you do in this most unappreciated job of yours? Allah knows its difficulty and how much you do it with love, that your status is raised to a martyr until your weaning period even ! 🙂
So while everyone enjoys playing with and cuddling your cute little tiger when he’s calm, and pass him to you once he starts crying, look at him, and look at that little miracle that wanted only your arms, again. And smile; for he is your investment in Jannah. ❤
Sameera Hameed 